About 9 years ago, our pastor preached a sermon series about mentors….the importance of finding mentors and being a mentor. As a young married couple, it had a great impact. We began praying that God would send us mentors specifically in the areas of marriage and family. The goal was to find someone just ahead of us in life and someone way out in front. God provided in an amazing way. Looking back over the past few years, we can see how through the guidance, prayer and love of our mentor couples God has been graciously preparing us for our new adventure.
We have been told that the number one reason families leave overseas service is marriage and/or family issues. We, of course, still have a lot to learn, but we can see the progress and changes that have taken place in our hearts and minds.
Recently, one of the “pieces of advice” that was given to us in the area of parenting seems to be paying off and standing out. We were told it would be easier on us and less exasperating to our children if we would simply call them to us first and then give them instruction. Instead of saying, “William, please clean up your toys.” We say, “William, come to daddy/mommy”. William replies, “Yes daddy/mommy, I’m coming”. After he comes, we give the instruction.
Payoff – We are getting obedience without complaint. Of course, this process is not perfect every time...but we are not perfect people. As parents, we are trying to not call our children right at the end of their favorite show or when they are trying to finish a puzzle/game. We also try to give a 5 minute warning that they will soon be called to obedience, but as a general rule when we call, they come. Amazingly, once we have gotten the obedience of coming to us, to comply to the instruction seems so much easier for the kids.
Standing out – I asked myself the other day why this simple twist of instruction seems to work for obedience and attitude….here are my thoughts:
When God calls us to Himself, we go out of the love relationship we have with the Father. Once we are in His presence, we can’t help but want to listen and obey. When we go out to do His will, our heart attitude is joy because we know even when the task is difficult it is our privilege to please Him.
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PS: Thank you Birds and Kimmels for the love you have shown to our family!
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